When planning to use anal toys, whether for the first time, or if you are experienced, you will need lubricants or anal creams. Unlike the vagina which produces a form of natural lubrication when aroused, the anus does not.
If you are using a condom, or a toy made from silicone, the best thing to use is a thick water based lubricant, such as Wet Stuff Gold. Are you using no condom, or a glass or metal toy? Then the best product to use is a silicone lubricant such as Wet Stuff Silicone. The formula is very long lasting and smooth. It will not dry out and need re-applying because there is no water content.
If you or your partner is finding anal play uncomfortable, or can’t relax enough, don’t worry this is common. Try using a relax cream, which softens and relaxes the anus, allowing more comfortable and enjoyable play times.