How Can I Have More Orgasms?

How Can I Have More Orgasms?

Over the years we have had many people ask us, How Can I Have More Orgasms? Some people find it hard orgasming with a partner. Some find it hard orgasming solo. Whilst some find it damn near impossible to orgasm at all.

Whilst being intimate with a partner or having a bit of sexy alone time is important for our sexual wellbeing and mental health, an orgasm doesn’t always have to be the end goal. You can have an amazing and exciting time just enjoying caresses and letting your imagination run wild. However an orgasm is a very welcomed and much desired side effect of sexy time fun so let us see if we can help with that.

Remove the pressure

First things first, you need to take the pressure off of yourself and your partner, shift your thinking from I must have an orgasm to, an orgasm would be nice but lets see how it goes. When you elevate pressure, you up the ante on reaching orgasm in the first place.

Knowing your own body and how you like to be touched is so important. You need to take time to learn what you do and do not like. The best way to do this is through masturbation. Learn how you like to be pleased before expecting someone else to know how.

Alone time will really help you get intouch with yourself without having to worry about someone elses thoughts or feelings. You will be able to relax and enjoy the experience of making yourself feel good.

Give toys a try

Toys are a great way for you to experiment. For men and women, there are so many different toys on the market nowadays, it could be a good idea to try a range of toys and see what is right for you. Buying sex toys can be an expensive business so maybe start with a more pocket friendly brand such as Thrill City. This way you can purchase a few toys, have fun experimenting and then when you find a couple that do it for you, you can look at splurging and treating yourself to a top of the range toy from the likes of Satisfyer, Cal Exotics or Fleshlight.

For the ladies

For the ladies, you can try using an air pulse toy and see if clitoral stimulation is for you. You could try using a rabbit so you are internally and externally stimulated at the same time and see if that is what floats your boat. You could try using a standard stick vibrator to see if you just want or need internal stiumlation. Whatever you choose to try, you will definetly have a fun time. When you are ready, you can introduce your partner to the toys and tell them how you like them to be used on you.

For the men

For the men, there are a plentitude of masturbators for you to have fun with. Try a vaginal one, not only will this give you pleasure it can help with your stamina too. Try an anal masturbator to see if a tighter hole is what gets you going. A head teaser or vibrating masturbator might be just the thing that you like. If it turns out that vibrations are for you, you could think of adding a vibrating cock ring to your sex life for both of your pleasure. The possibilities really are endless.

Whether you are partnered, single or it’s complicated, an orgasm a day can do you the world of good, so get experimenting and dedicate some time each day or at least each week to making yourself scream your own damn name out loud.

Your Questions Answered

How Can I Have More Orgasms? is the 29th in a series of short articles answering the questions we are frequently asked. These questions are from in-store and online via our website or social media platforms. By creating these articles, we hope to help out others with the same or similar queries.

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