Dr Joan’s Dictionary of Sex

Dr Joan's dictionary of sex

Dr Joan’s Dictionary of Sex

I have been in the business of romance and sex for more years than I wish to admit to. So, sometimes I forget that some of the terminology used might not make perfect sense to everyone. With this in mind, I have created this fun article, my dictionary of sex. It’s a ‘sextionary’ if you will, to explain some commonly used and some of the more unusual phrases and terms. I refer to these things in my articles and posts, so I don’t want anybody feeling they are not part of the conversation! Here goes…

A. –  Anal Beads

A sex toy containing multiple balls which are attached to each other. They are inserted anally to be worn during sex and are pulled out swiftly at the moment of orgasm to enhance climax. Anal beads are enjoyed by either sex.

B. –  Butt Plug 

An anal sex toy designed to be inserted into the rectum for sexual pleasure. It usually has a flanged end to avoid the toy being sucked up and lost inside. A butt plug can also be used to stretch and relax the anus in preparation for anal sex. 

C. –  Cockring

A ring worn around the base of the penis to restrict blood flow in order to produce a strong and long lasting erection. Vibrating styles of cockring can be worn to give pleasure to both the man and his partner during sex.

D. –  Douche

A device used to introduce a stream of water into the body, either anally or vaginally to rinse and clean. Ideally used whilst in the shower. Often used before anal play, to ensure nice clean fun. Douches are unisex.

E – Erection Pills

Viagra and Cialis are well known examples of drugs that help men get hard. They are very strong, but can have side effects, such as bad headaches. There are herbal alternatives to prescription drugs, these help with erectile dysfunction in a more natural way.

F – Finger Vibe

A mini vibrator designed to be worn on the finger to give direct stimulation to yourself or your partner. Great for nipple or clitoral play during foreplay.

G – G-Spot

The sensitive area of the anterior wall of the vagina which is highly erogenous and when stimulated, intensifies orgasm and can also cause female ejaculation.

H – Hollow Strap on

A versatile toy that can be worn on a flaccid or erect penis as an extension allowing the wearer to give pleasure to their partner. Particularly useful for men with erectile dysfunction or all-female couples.

I – Impotence

When a man can’t get or keep an erection firm enough to achieve intercourse. This can occur for a variety of reasons. Can often be combated by the use of stimulants and/or cock rings.

J – Jangling

The practice of a woman wearing a butt plug attached by a chain to clitoral jewellery. Usually worn without underwear in order to feel/hear a jangling effect.

K – Kegel Balls

Small weighted balls that are inserted and worn in the vagina. Kegel Balls help strengthen and tighten the vaginal and pelvic floor muscles. These are particularly useful for women who have given birth.

Dr Joan's Dictionary of sex.. Kegel Balls are particularly useful for women who have given birth.
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L – Lubricant

Lubricant or lube as it known, comes in many varieties. Usually either water, Oil or Silicone based. It is used to enhance sexual pleasure and for comfort, especially during anal sex.

M – Masturbator

An artificial vagina, usually made out of soft life-like material, designed to enhance a man’s masturbation experience. Best paired with a slightly warming lubricant so to re-create the natural feel of a woman.

N – Nipple Clamps

A clip worn on the nipples for sensation play. The pinching sensation can heighten sexual pleasure. Best used as a tease during foreplay, or as a controlling toy in BDSM.

Dr Joan's Dictionary of sex describes  Nipple Clamps and their use in foreplay and sex..
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O – Oral Sex

A sexual practice that involves the stimulation of your partner’s genitalia by using your mouth. Often used as a prelude to full sex during foreplay.

P – P-Spot

Medically known as the prostate, this small gland is located just inside the man’s anus and is incredibly sensitive. When stimulated this can help achieve intense orgasms and fierce ejaculation.

Q – Queening

The act of a woman sitting on a man’s face. A dominant act which results in her riding him whilst he provides oral pleasure to her. Most often used by couples enjoying Femdom fantasies.

R – Rimming

The act of stimulating another persons anus with your mouth and tongue. Usually combined with masturbating your partner.

S – Sadist

A person who derives pleasure, especially sexual gratification, from inflicting pain on another. A consensual partner in BDSM play is a Masochist.

Dr Joan's Dictionary of sex. Scandal Paddle.
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T – Tea Bagging

The repeated action of dipping the scrotum into a partners mouth for sexual pleasure. Often whilst being given a handjob or other sexual stimulation.

U – Urethral Play

The practice of inserting objects of various sizes into the urethra for sexual gratification. Usually Urethral Sounds are used. Long thin metal rods, which are sometimes have a vibration function so sensation is increased even more.

V – Vibrator

A sex toy, often phallic shaped with a vibrating mechanism powered by either battery or rechargeable motor. Vibrators can be made for anal, vaginal or clitoral pleasure. They come in an impressive range range of sizes, materials, colours and functions.

Dr Joan's Dictionary. Diamond Rabbit Vibrator.
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W/X/Y/Z – Watersports

A sexual activity which involves urinating on another person. Often performed as part of role play or domination scenarios. Either used as a singular sex practice or at the end of a sex session, following orgasm.

My Dictionary of Sex

I hope my little dictionary of sex has been useful. For a deeper look at sex and romance, read my article entitled ‘How to Spice up Your Sex Life‘. It is full of romantic and sexual tips to make sure you get the best results from your sex life. From sex toys to positions, it is full of great ideas so you’ll keep the magic alive in a relationship.

Dr Joan.